This is part of the series The Gifts Of The Holidays: Celebrating Thanksgiving And Christmas. Read more from the series!
This year, we’ve started a new tradition: Family Advent Nights.
So far, we’ve done this three times, and my kids love it! I have to admit, I do too…
Let me tell you up front that this is not my idea originally. Although we’ve made a few changes that fit our family better, I discovered this idea on the Familyman Ministry blog. This site is an incredible resource for men who want to be the best dads and husbands that they can be. I suggest you check it out.
Here’s the concept. Once a week, for the four weeks between Thanksgiving and Christmas, we gather as a family after dinner. We start off with a simple craft. Our first week, the kids crafted a simple woven placemat. The next week, we made wreath ornaments out of buttons and pipe cleaners. This week, we colored gift bags. The crafts are simple, yet fun. I ordered a kit with all four crafts in it from Familyman Ministries. It was extremely inexpensive. See the kit here.
After the craft session, we head out into the living room for some deeper family togetherness. We start off by lighting a candle (or more) on our Advent wreath. While this is burning, we read a passage from the Bible coinciding with the week of Advent we are in. Again, the Familyman website has specific details. My older kids take turns reading parts of the passage, and then we pray.
We don’t get too deep with the discussion here. After all, my kids are mostly very young, so we have to keep it simple. And that’s perfectly ok. Once we are finished with the Bible reading and talk, I read the family a Christmas story. We have five different books, one for each night we do this. These stories are fun, and they keep our kids attention, especially if I make up voices to go with the specific characters. Our three year loves this! Familyman Ministries has an excellent packet of stories that fit this perfectly.
While I am reading, Heather heads back into the kitchen to fix a snack. This isn’t anything extravagant. One night it was crackers and peanut butter drizzled with chocolate. Another night she cut up apples and had caramel to dip them in. Each night, we also allow the kids to have a small glass of sparkling grape juice. However, they get so excited about this that we have to keep it small; they are too wound up to go to bed!
Once the snacks are eaten, we are done.
I love this new tradition for two reasons:
First, it provides some excellent family time. It gives me the opportunity to lead my family as God has created me to do. And it permits me to take part in the lives of my children, spending significant time with them and building great memories together. My kids love it, along with many of the other things we do together, and I know will treasure these times with me as they grow older.
Since I lost my dad, I’ve found myself reminiscing about the special times he and I spent together. While they might not have help tremendous power when they occurred, they do now. I want to create so many special times for my children, memories that they can hold onto long after I am gone. Memories that will reassure them of my love for them.
Second, it draws attention to the purpose we celebrate Christmas. Although we may not stick to the particular details of Advent like tradition dictates, our family is poignantly reminded of the meaning of Christmas weekly. And that, in itself, is reason enough.
Again, this is a new tradition for us this year (I’m completely avoiding the strictest definition of “tradition” here). Since we’ve never done this before, it’s all completely new and open to modification, which I’m sure will occur over time. In the meantime, it has already developed a special place in our family’s Christmas celebrations.
What do you do to prepare your family for Christmas? Do you celebrate Advent? If so, how? Share your thoughts in the comments section below.
That’s the kind of family involvement that will become tradition and brings the family closer together. What a wonderful concept for celebrating the birth of our Lord and Savor Jesus Christ!
God Bless you and yours this Christmas and coming new year!!
Thanks, Jim! Our family really seems to like it so far! A Merry Christmas to you and yours as well!